Exhausted by co-parent communication?
We’re the buffer you never had.
Communication with your co-parent can be emotionally charged, and non-productive. Headaches and hassles are avoided by our co-lab artists writing messages / texts / emails for you. We’re highly trained in how to proactively avoid conflict and/or reduce it.
You may not be able to remove yourself entirely from communicating with your co-parent but, you can lean into resources like ours that can help to reduce the negative impact on you, your kiddos, your co-parenting dynamic and any future family law circumstances / court applications and trials.
Frequently asked questions
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A ghostwriter is someone who writes communication for you.
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Communicating with your co-parent can be emotionally charged. Many co-parents aren’t sure what to say, how to say it or when to respond. Having a ghostwriter helps to take guessing out of the occasion, cuts the stress you might feel and simplifies the process for you.
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We write just about anything that needs to be written. A few types of communication we typically write for our clients are as follows:
Response(s) to communication that has been received
Communication(s) to convey information
Communication(s) to initiate discussion
Communication(s) to your lawyer updating them on specific topics
Communication(s) to your broad family updating them on specific topics
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Every message your co-parent sends will be considered a "message". We send you a proposed response - OR - We will send you a quick note looping you in (sans nonsense) if no response is needed but you need to know.
If you receive a few messages within a 72 hour period, we also often consolidate answers into one message. This is a best practice to avoid epic amounts of messages going to your co-parenting. This does not reduce the amount of "messages" used from your ten for the month.
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Our proposed responses or FYIs are sent within a 24-72 hour period to you. We know that many messages come flying at co-parents quickly. If you need a quicker response you can use our mach speed message (this is additional to a subscription) - Mach speed messages are guaranteed within 24 hours.
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We follow all communication protocols within any orders that are present.
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The only person who will know that you have a ghostwriter is you unless you tell someone.
The co-lab ghostwriting process?
It’s simple; really.
1. Initial consult
(30 mins - Let’s see if we’re a fit!)
Have questions? We have answers. Want to run a specific scenario by us, we’re here to help. This 30 minutes will give you insight into how we work, and more importantly how we can make your life easier!
**You can skip this step if you know this service is for you, you don’t need the consult!
2. Ghostwriting intake
(1hr - $99 due prior to the screening)
This is where you can tell us the nitty gritty + download our ghostwriter on what you’d like to accomplish, how you’d like to accomplish it etc. We’ll take a look at past communication, current communication, your current order (if you have one!), and generally get a sense of how we can help diffuse conflict, and restore your peace.
Your ghostwriter will send you documents regarding confidentiality, and how ghostwriting works. These documents will set the ground for the communication we curate for your consideration. All documents are required (initialled on each page, and signed where applicable) prior to your ghostwriter digging in.
3. Choose your ghostwriting subscription
(based on the # of msgs per month)
Ghostwriting is a subscription service. We find that establishing a continual relationship with our coparents helps to best support their communication efforts!
Your ghostwriter will write proposal responses for you to determine if you’d like to use them. We write free of emotion, direct to the needs of the child, and within the BIFF (brief, informative, factual and friendly) format. We also utilize the NewWays for Families proposal communication structure. This structure was developed by Bill Eddy (widely respected as a leader in high-conflict communication).
Our ghostwriting subscriptions packages are as follows:
$59 for 10 msgs/per month then $5 additional msgs
$99 for 20 msgs/per month then $5 additional msgs
$149 for 30 msgs/per month then $5 additional msgs
4. Set-up for support
Our team will set-up your parenting app and/or email so that we can support you.
5. We’ll jump into your co-parent communications
Your co-lab artist will read your co-parent’s communications, and connect with you every 48-72 hours. We’ll send either a co-parenting communication summary (aka what you need to know, without the nonsense), ask a few questions so we can create suggested responses and/or provide suggested responses to your co-parent’s communication (and note the specific msg/email and date we suggest you respond to).
You can also ask your co-lab artist to create a suggested message. Not sure what to say or how to say it? We’ll help!
5. Update us bi-monthly
(don’t worry, we’ll prompt you!)
It’s important that you keep your ghostwriter in the loop regarding the ongoing dynamics of your coparenting relationship. This helps to ensure that the ghostwriter has context to the communication that’s been responded to. We require the coparents who use this service to provide us with an update form. You also have the opportunity to connect via Zoom with your ghostwriter to update them if at any time!